Is your daughter or son getting married or newly married? If so, you’re probably already well acquainted with your (future) daughter or son-in-law and have opinions as to how you feel about them. Hopefully, you have positive feelings. But whether you like this new family member or not, have you thought about what it takes to be a good mother-in-law? I have.
My daughter is getting married in June. I can honestly say that I truly love my son-in-law to be. He, as my daughter says, thinks “the sun shines out of her butt.” Hmmm, not such a bad thing in a Son-in-law! We both love the same girl! He’s very good to her. He and I get along well. Her engagement ring rivals the Hope Diamond (well, almost.) When we go out to dinner, not only is he happy if I’m occasionally along, but he wants to buy. What’s not to like? He loves my daughter and likes me, which makes it obvious that he has very good taste.
Perhaps, attempting to be a good mother-in-law is even more important if you don’t like your soon-to-be daughter or son-in-law. Most of us want our children to be happy.
The bottom line is this: to be a good mother-in-law you need to show respect for your child’s spouse. If you show that respect, you will most probably get respect back. Don’t forget that if you lose a friend, it’s sad but it may not affect the rest of your life. If you alienate your child’s spouse, it will not only strain your relationship with your own child, but it may make for difficult times at holidays and family outings for the rest of your life!
What do you think? Any advice for a New MIL?